89. Nor can I reduce my life to relationships with a small group, even my own family; I cannot know myself apart from a broader network of relationships, including those that have preceded me and shaped my entire life. My relationship with those whom I respect has to take account of the fact that they do not live only for me, nor do I live only for them. Our relationships, if healthy and authentic, open us to others who expand and enrich us. Nowadays, our noblest social instincts can easily be thwarted by self-centred chats that give the impression of being deep relationships. On the contrary, authentic and mature love and true friendship can only take root in hearts open to growth through relationships with others. As couples or friends, we find that our hearts expand as we step out of ourselves and embrace others. Closed groups and self-absorbed couples that define themselves in opposition to others tend to be expressions of selfishness and mere self-preservation.
94. Love, then, is more than just a series of benevolent actions. Those actions have their source in a union increasingly directed towards others, considering them of value, worthy, pleasing and beautiful apart from their physical or moral appearances. Our love for others, for who they are, moves us to seek the best for their lives. Only by cultivating this way of relating to one another will we make possible a social friendship that excludes no one and a fraternity that is open to all.
In the name of God, who has created all human beings equal in rights, duties and dignity, and who has called them to live together as brothers and sisters, to fill the earth and make known the values of goodness, love and peace;
Distinctive patterns emerged when we explored gender differences in relationships between self-criticism dimensions and RSB among sexual minority and heterosexual people. Consistent with Hypothesis 3, correlation analyses showed that RSB were positively associated with the dispositional tendency towards self-hate, but not with self-inadequacy, only in sexual minority men. This finding suggests that in sexual minority men, RSB are not linked to a general feeling of disappointment with themselves and self-inadequacy, but only to self-hate, which describes a sadistic and often persecuting desire to hurt the self (Gilbert et al., 2004). The relationship between RSB and self-hate that distinctively characterized sexual minority men was substantiated by the inverse significant relationship between RSB and safe/content positive affect that, again, emerged only in sexual minority men. 2b1af7f3a8