It is clear that this is a very different way of looking at attraction than the one we learned in Section 11.2.9. It is much more in line with the more recent evolutionary theories of psychology. However, there is still something that is noteworthy. That is, it is easy to see how some basic preferences for partners can be carried into a variety of different types of relationships.
On the flip side, women are selective about who they date. As Buss (2004) points out, they are looking for someone to care for them and protect them from harm. They prefer partners who are physically fit and have at least one child. They also look for high status men (Buss 2004) who are not only earning money, but also have political and social power. Women who score high in the areas of intelligence, beauty, and power will also score well in terms of being more sexually attractive. Unfortunately, men are not as concerned about how much intelligence or beauty their partners have, but they are interested in social status. A person with a lot of money, political influence, power, and prestige is considered an important mate. So, the model for choosing a potential mate is fairly simple. Selection occurs based on the respective preferences of the sexes. It is not that hard, really, but the reasons behind the selection criteria are very interesting.
Buss (2004) also points out that our species has a very brief window of opportunity before children start to thrive. As a result, reproduction is only a small part of human mating. However, it is also the most important one. So, when it comes to choosing a mate, we look for a combination of physical attributes, status, financial security, social and political influence, fertility, and past behavior.
These preferences also serve as a form of assurance that we will stay together and be a good parent. In a similar vein, there is also the assurance that we will be able to continue to afford our children given the amount of economic security that they can bring. The same is true of social status as it provides a feeling of self-esteem and control. Assurance of our physical well-being, as well as that of our children, is a major component of the mating process. There is even a measure of conformity to the rest of the group. If they are sharing similar mate preferences, then it is likely that we will share similar ones.
We start by addressing the lack of love in modern society. We have only to look at the aforementioned information to realize that a lot of people live alone, are lonely, and are socially isolated. So what are the solutions?
So, what does this have to do with attraction? Well, it helps to understand why people find each other attractive. If you are wondering why your date did not ask you out, or why your partner is showing interest in you, there is probably a reason. The reasons for why someone or a couple gets attracted to each other are rooted in evolutionary psychology. So, we will dive into the basic concepts of attraction. Before we do, you might want to go check out the links below to understand the basic concepts. 827ec27edc